The Story of Debby and Her Husband

Feelings before the ligation

In 1972 I was pregnant with our first child. I was not a believer and although I was excited about being pregnant, I had no concept of life being a precious gift of God. During the third trimester it seemed that everything that could go wrong did go wrong. I had toxemia, my doctor had a mental breakdown, the toxemia progressed to eclampsia, my crevice was green, I was induced for three days, the baby was stressed and when she was born the placenta was 85% dead. After the delivery they thought I had a heart attack…the details go on and on. Throughout all of this time though I was very peaceful. When I got home from the hospital, I took my precious little girl and lifted her up to God and gave her to Him. I knew he had protected her and had a plan and purpose of ruler life. Shortly after that I started attending a Bible study group and joyfully accepted the Lord.

In 1974 we moved to Japan. One thing that the Lord had spoken over me was that I would have more children and need not be afraid because of the complications of the first pregnancy. I became pregnant with our second child. I was very sick with no family and no real fellowship for support. At the end of this pregnancy, I had some complications, but nothing too severe.

I listened to man instead of God!

My doctor and my husband both wanted me to have a tubal ligation saying that pregnancy and I did not get along. The trouble was I had a heart problem at the time of delivery and my doctor said that maybe we should let my body stabilize and have surgery done in six months. My answer, out of the abundance of my heart, was that if we did not do it right then, I would never have it done because I really did not want to do it.

Feelings after the ligation

They stabilized my heart and did the surgery. Immediately I was convicted in recovery I prayed, “Lord, how could I listen to the wisdom of men and not seek You and hear from You on this?” I had made such a life changing decision to actually cut off the well spring of life without seeking the creator of life. I was very sad, full of grief and extremely repentant. After about three months of praying, the Lord spoke to me on morning and said that it was all right and, in his timing, he would take care of it.

How can you put a price on the life of a child?

I then prayed for ten years, waiting on the Lord. When we moved to Nashville, I was put in touch with a doctor who specialized in re-anastomosis or reversals. I met with him and found out that the type of tubal ligation I had was one of the easier ones to reverse. Once problem, it would cost at least $4,500 well beyond what we could pay in the natural. When I told my husband the cost his answer was, “How can you put a price on the life of a child?” I had the surgery done in November.

Feelings after the ligation reversal

Two years later we had our third daughter with no complications whatsoever, followed by another daughter three years later and a son two years after that.

I have never spoken to a woman who has had a tubal ligation, who did not grieve on some level the loss of the child or children who would never be. I look at my “second family” and I am so thankful for the grace, forgiveness and love that the Lord has lavished upon us. I’m so thankful that the Lord looks on our hearts and works in our hearts to bring us to a place of surrender in Him.

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